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Toni
shared a chat session in group #Rhoid Rage (& recovery)
Post surgery sex!
Hello all- I’m a 25 y/o FTM person, i had a hemorrhoidectomy in August 2021 to remove a thrombosed internal hemorrhoid. (Which by the way took 6 wks to stop being painful and about 8 wks to fully heal)
I am queer, and although I am less experienced with it I do enjoy anal sex. I have wanted to start “stretching” in order to eventually take a partner.
I know, I know, slow and steady wins the race when it comes to this. But how slow does it have to be??? It’s really frustrating me that I have to massage myself for about an hour before I get my smallest plug in.
The other day I threw my patience out the door and used two gloves fingers way too fast and ended up hurting myself (I use a silicone/water hybrid lube btw!) and now my scar site is enflamed and it stung for a few days after.
There is so so much resistance and I’m worried about giving myself another hemmie or damaging my scar site. Should I cut my losses and just take anal off the table? Makes me sad to think about but I cannot have another surgery healing the last one was HORRIBLE.
Who has experience with this? when did you start having anal sex or doing anal stimulation again? Help!
Post surgery sex!
Hello all- I’m a 25 y/o FTM person, i had a hemorrhoidectomy in August 2021 to remove a thrombosed internal hemorrhoid. (Which by the way took 6 wks to stop being painful and about 8 wks to fully heal)
I am queer, and although I am less experienced with it I do enjoy anal sex. I have wanted to start “stretching” in order to eventually take a partner.
I know, I know, slow and steady wins the race when it comes to this. But how slow does it have to be??? It’s really frustrating me that I have to massage myself for about an hour before I get my smallest plug in.
The other day I threw my patience out the door and used two gloves fingers way too fast and ended up hurting myself (I use a silicone/water hybrid lube btw!) and now my scar site is enflamed and it stung for a few days after.
There is so so much resistance and I’m worried about giving myself another hemmie or damaging my scar site. Should I cut my losses and just take anal off the table? Makes me sad to think about but I cannot have another surgery healing the last one was HORRIBLE.
Who has experience with this? when did you start having anal sex or doing anal stimulation again? Help!