Post surgery sex!
Hello all- I’m a 25 y/o FTM person, i had a hemorrhoidectomy in August 2021 to remove a thrombosed internal hemorrhoid. (Which by the way took 6 wks to stop being painful and about 8 wks to fully heal)
I am queer, and although I am less experienced with it I do enjoy anal sex. I have wanted to start “stretching” in order to eventually take a partner.
I know, I know, slow and steady wins the race when it comes to this. But how slow does it have to be??? It’s really frustrating me that I have to massage myself for about an hour before I get my smallest plug in.
The other day I threw my patience out the door and used two gloves fingers way too fast and ended up hurting myself (I use a silicone/water hybrid lube btw!) and now my scar site is enflamed and it stung for a few days after.
There is so so much resistance and I’m worried about giving myself another hemmie or damaging my scar site. Should I cut my losses and just take anal off the table? Makes me sad to think about but I cannot have another surgery healing the last one was HORRIBLE.
Who has experience with this? when did you start having anal sex or doing anal stimulation again? Help!